Sometime we push people away just to protect them
There
are a variety of reasons we push people away. One is being fear. Fear of being hurt, rejected, or of something
new we’ve never had. Being close to someone, makes us emotionally invested in
the individual. We begin to focus our time and energy on this person. It would
hurt us if they did something to go against our wishes, deceived us, or even if
something were to happen to them. So, we may want to avoid the pain than to
actual experience the joy and growth the relationship could offer. We end it
before it begins so we could avoid any possible pain.
The
fear of rejection ties into this as well since we may have been rejected so
many times in our lives that it’s affected us so bad. We may even try to keep
someone in our lives by clinging onto them or doing anything for them to keep
them from leaving our lives, because of fear. And even the fear of the unknown,
and meeting new people can scare us since we never know what may happen.
Another
reason we may push others away is because we think we don’t deserve it. Again, going back to
childhood, perhaps we were raised in a manner or have experienced certain
traumas that made us feel unworthy and unloved, making us feel undeserving of
friendships and love. While we may think we don’t deserve these types of
connections, it’s often due to fears of not being good enough and insecure with
ourselves that cause this
Emotional problem is another reason we may push
others away. Depression and wanting isolation may make us feel worthless and
want to keep our distance from others and only be with ourselves and our own
thoughts. We may then push others away, or it may appear as such to other
people because we neglect them and isolate ourselves from them.
And another reason begin that it’s not the right time.
Essentially what this means is that it may not be the right time in your life
to meet a particular person, or it could seem like too much. Let’s say a person
comes into our lives that is perfect, like a perfect ideal romantic
relationship for us. But, it is a bit too much for us right now. Meaning that
they are just too good for us at this given time, since we may feel like we
have a lot of work to do on ourselves first.
Sometimes we push people away, when we need them the most
